You hurt me and humiliated me and you never even said you are sorry
And i’m expected to somehow let it slide and forgive you,
Hell no, you do not deserve my forgiveness, you deserve to feel the way I felt
When you hurt my feelings , I will not give you the satisfaction of Forgiving your actions
I love myself way too much to allow people like you to get away with treating me like shit.
I will never forgive you for what you have done to me, I would rather die than give you that satisfaction!
Now I am straight up Bitter and Nasty, I am still mad over something that happened years ago and refuse to move past it. I am hurting inside from all of the resentment I have created over the years. I am miserable, I do not feel happy and I feel worse when I run into that person. Why has that person stolen my joy?
Because I could not swallow my pride and forgive them, Forgiving them does not mean that you excuse their actions, It is Understanding the harsh realities of life and Knowing that you will get hurt at some point in life. You can be bitter over every hurt or you can try and humanize the person who hurt you by understanding that “hurt people hurt other people”, I think it was Joyce Meyer who said that. People who are wounded tend to wanna do the same to other people. If you hold on to your bitterness long enough you will become like the very people you loathe and you will go around hurting other people as well.
Remember that you have also hurt other people and some of those people have battled with forgiving you too. That being said Why do we need to forgive people?
“We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies”
Martin Luther King, Jr
We need to forgive for our inner peace, bitterness makes you nasty and you carry that nastiness with you everywhere you go, it makes your attitude stink, imagine having a stinking attitude, people will not wanna be around you and you wont wanna be around you. We forgive for ourselves and our wellbeing, by doing that we do not forget what was done to us but we choose to let it go and move on peacefully.
I dunno who you are holding in your heart and who you refuse to forgive but I can imagine that a part of you is carrying heavy pain from that bitterness and pretty soon it will spread all over your spirit and rob you of your joy. Let us take bold steps together and forgive people who have hurt us because we will be better off in the long haul.