A Blog About Advice and Living
You woke up going about your day
Things were good, things were okay
Then all of a sudden everything went astray
Do you cry, do you pray?
You decide, to get up and try again
Even when it hurts, you get up and keep it pushing
Use what you have and make the best of it
To live is to face what life throws at you.
Go on get up, things will get better
Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow
But a day will come when things are good
Your pain won’t be in vain
You will rejoice again
Peace comes from accepting reality, accepting what you cannot change, this could be people, circumstances, or the weather.
When you resist reality, you put yourself in great despair, this leads to unbreable pain that you can’t cope with.
The only thing you can do is to face the pain, Accept the dissapointment and accept that there is nothing you can do to change the situation however you can change your reaction and the way you cope and recover by accepting reality as it is.
Life is a roller coaster and when you ride this roller-coaster you have to accept the highs and the lows that come with the ride if you resist them you will have a very difficult time
So decide weather you want Peace or Pain
At least you are Alive
At least you have a Job
At least you are Doing Something to make a Living
At least you have Food and Water
At least you have a Roof over your head
At least you have People that care for you
At least you have Money to spend
At least you have Clothes to wear
At least you have Something to be Thankful for…
Why am I Here?
Why do I Get up every Morning?
Why do I Dress the way I Dress?
Why do I devote Time and Attention to certain Activities over Others?
Why did I Choose this Field of Study?
Why did I Choose to do this Particular Job?
Why do I want to Succeed?
Why do I Say the things I Say?
Why do I Socialise with this Particular group of People?
Why do I Go to the Places that I Go to?
Why do I Give the Things that I Give?
Why do I Believe in what I Believe in?
Why do I Repeat all of the Above ?
Why Questions, they are important to remembering the Reason behind doing what we do Regularly. They are also good for guiding us into understanding what our Life Purpose is. They are a good indicator of Who we are and Why we are.
Given that this Post is about purpose, my question to you is : What Motivates you daily in your life?
Feel free to leave your Comments below.
You hurt me and humiliated me and you never even said you are sorry
And i’m expected to somehow let it slide and forgive you,
Hell no, you do not deserve my forgiveness, you deserve to feel the way I felt
When you hurt my feelings , I will not give you the satisfaction of Forgiving your actions
I love myself way too much to allow people like you to get away with treating me like shit.
I will never forgive you for what you have done to me, I would rather die than give you that satisfaction!
Hold up….
Now I am straight up Bitter and Nasty, I am still mad over something that happened years ago and refuse to move past it. I am hurting inside from all of the resentment I have created over the years. I am miserable, I do not feel happy and I feel worse when I run into that person. Why has that person stolen my joy?
Because I could not swallow my pride and forgive them, Forgiving them does not mean that you excuse their actions, It is Understanding the harsh realities of life and Knowing that you will get hurt at some point in life. You can be bitter over every hurt or you can try and humanize the person who hurt you by understanding that “hurt people hurt other people”, I think it was Joyce Meyer who said that. People who are wounded tend to wanna do the same to other people. If you hold on to your bitterness long enough you will become like the very people you loathe and you will go around hurting other people as well.
Remember that you have also hurt other people and some of those people have battled with forgiving you too. That being said Why do we need to forgive people?
“We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies”
We need to forgive for our inner peace, bitterness makes you nasty and you carry that nastiness with you everywhere you go, it makes your attitude stink, imagine having a stinking attitude, people will not wanna be around you and you wont wanna be around you. We forgive for ourselves and our wellbeing, by doing that we do not forget what was done to us but we choose to let it go and move on peacefully.
I dunno who you are holding in your heart and who you refuse to forgive but I can imagine that a part of you is carrying heavy pain from that bitterness and pretty soon it will spread all over your spirit and rob you of your joy. Let us take bold steps together and forgive people who have hurt us because we will be better off in the long haul.
I just met you a month back
You left quite the Impression on me
I never saw you coming
You just sort of found me in the least expected platform
I know I haven’t committed myself to you fully
I am trying to make room for you in my life
You took me by surprise
I was not ready to avail myself
I am now fully in and ready to go all the way
Im sorry that I was a mess and could not value you
Im trying to fix myself and make ammends
You are truly something special
I never wanna take that for granted
I really hope we can get to know one another
we are magic together
“Self-hatred refers to an extreme dislike or hatred of oneself, or being angry at or even prejudiced against oneself. The term is also used to designate a dislike or hatred of a group, family, social class, or stereotype to which one belongs and/or has.” Wikipedia
When I read this definition I basically saw myself, I have felt like this for most of my life and have become depressed as a result of it. What I am trying to figure out though is why we become like this, What Causes us to Struggle with Self Acceptance and Self Love?
“The child tends to take on the anger, fear, self-hatred, in fact, the whole complex of emotions the parent is experiencing “ Psychalive.org
Upbringing plays a major role, if you are brought up in an environment were your parents or family has low self esteem you are more likely to pick it up and continue the cycle. Both my parents had poor self esteem and it affected me very negatively so I understand how my issues began.
How does Self hatred negatively affect you? Aside from not liking yourself you become very Hard on yourself, seeking unachievable perfection from everything you do. We also Feel like we have nothing to offer especially in Group situations, we Feel Worthless. We develop Anger issues that stem from suppressed hurt and issues we have with ourselves. Lastly it’s the People pleasing struggle that comes from wanting other people to like us and feel gaps that we have created for ourselves because of our inability to accept ourselves.
Now as someone who has struggled with this, I relate to all of the above and understand that everyone has their own personal struggles that stem from a low self esteem. That being said, How Do We Overcome Self Loathing?
“You Accept Yourself because to Live is to Accept our Realities” – A cry for help
We cant run away from our reality and change our upbringing, it is what it is. We can either make peace with it or live in denial. Forgive yourself and those who have hurt you, it is easier said than done for most but it is a necessary step to moving forward.
“Try to exert small kindnesses toward yourself — acknowledge when you are feeling bad and comfort yourself as you would a good friend” xojane.com
We have to learn to Love Ourselves, this means treating ourselves with respect and compassion. We are Uniquely made to stand out as we are and we are deserving of love and happiness, those very things we loathe about ourselves are what make us special and unique.
Hey, You
You are uniquely made
There is none like you
You are beautiful just as you are
The very things you are insecure about are what make you stand out
Go on, step out and let us see you
No more hiding
The world has been waiting to receive you
Bless us with your gifts
I feel like I love you but
I don’t have the courage to tell you
I prefer to write away my emotions
I have been suffering silently for some time now
Hoping these feelings will fade away somehow
I was not prepared for the agony I would Endure
God why did I have to like you
Why am I not Confident enough to express myself to you
Unexpressed Love is Brutal
If there is someone out there that you may feel something for
Tell them before it eats away at your core
Don’t join the rest of us who mask our feelings due to fear
Be bold, the worst they can say is no
It will spare you from unnecessary Grief.
Life Happens to all of us
Sometimes we win and sometimes we loose
It’s not about what happens to us but about how we react to what happens
It’s easy to be happy about all the great times in our lives
It’s not so easy to to be calm in the tough times
It is doable
It begins with accepting Reality
What has happened has happened and you cant change that
You can cry until your eyes bleed or
You can put down the Kleenex and Keep it moving
There is a great feeling of peace from total Surrender
When you give up the resistance and accept your predicament
Get up and Move forward
There is not a thing that will happen to you that you wont be able to handle
Don’t run away from the storm
Face it head on
It is then when you will find your peace.
A Cry for Help 