“Your life is being wasted daily waiting for someone who is living their life. “
-A Cry For Help
I met a guy in college who I became so infatuated with, I did not know him personally but I found myself so captivated by him. It was a lost cause because we were in our final year in university and the odds of us meeting were slim. We finished varsity and went on with our lives and I still couldn’t get him out of my mind. I was so into him I convinced myself the reason its gone on for so long was because we were meant to be together.
I was infatuated with him and could not even consider the reality that he may not feel the same way about me. My friend and I finally ran into him 3 years later in a pub. We exchanged numbers and afterwards I learned that he was unavailable. We made attempts to hang out with him but he made it quiet clear he was in a committed relationship.
I was gutted, because I was not getting what I wanted, all my fantasies and hopes were crushed because the guy I liked did not like me back. I Drank off the disappointment with friends and tried to move on painfully.
Reality hit home and I realised that even if I keep holding on to hope it wont change a thing.
The most difficult aspect of moving on is accepting that the other person already did.
I deleted his phone number and stopped following him on Facebook. They were necessary steps to take because the more I kept being exposed to him the longer it would have taken me to move on with my life.
I realised that you cant force someone to like you, you have to accept their choice and let it go.
It is important to remember your self worth, you have to know that something not working out does not diminish who you are as a person.
When we like someone we create this whole fantasy in our heads of how we would like things to go with that other person. When it does not go our way we struggle to walk away from an illusion we created in our head in the first place.
Never love something so much that you can’t let go of it.
We are so attached to the fantasy we wont even try and consider the possibility of what lies ahead when we do move on and let go.
It may feel like he / she is the one for you but honey, there are so many people out there that you could meet if you can finally bring yourself to closing that chapter.
The longer you hold on to that person , the longer you keep yourself from moving on. Your life is being wasted daily waiting for someone who is living their life.
Would you like to reach the end of your life knowing that you wasted a portion of it waiting for someone who didn’t want you, that would be tragic.
You can live without that person, the fact that you are still here today is an indication of that. You are not dead, your heart is still beating even with their absence in your life, yes you can and will move on.
You will know you have moved on when you start being aware of the people around you. When you start receiving what life is putting in front of you, you will be making progress.
Don’t beat yourself up, we will meet a lot of people in the world and some of them will like us and some won’t. That does not take away from who we are as people. We are awesome human beings who deserve to live a happy life.