Remember this Today


Remember to breathe

Take a minute to soak in what is happening around you

Your feelings/ Mood will match your experiences today

You will get through whatever you are facing right now

Don’t force anything that is blocked from you, instead go with the flow

You are still an amazing unique Person

Everyone around you is struggling with insecurities as well

This day will end and everything happening now will be a memory

Relax you are perfectly fine the way you are

Confessions from a Suicidal Girl


It’s friday morning and most people are excited for the weekend, she rises dreading the day.

She checks her phone and finds no calls from her mother, maybe she is tired of  hearing her cry over the phone. Maybe she just needs a minute to digest the fact that her only daughter doesn’t seem to appreciate the life she has.

No matter how she looks at it, she feels alone, there is nobody who can understand her internal struggle. She walks around with a facade looking like she is on top of things when her world is falling apart inside.

She takes sticky paper from her fridge and writes  her mother’s phone number, she includes another number for a relative who can be reached just incase her mother misses the call.

Her plan is to hang by  the fire escape, she chooses this location because of its seclusion  in the building.  Maybe she doesn’t wanna be found decomposing in the flat so a fire escape will do.

She  showers and brushes her hair knowing that this will be her last time doing her daily routine. She picks out her favourite dress and puts it on. Her attire is all black suiting the occasion.

She turns on the TV and eats last breakfast, she watches a spiritual TV show hoping some sort of miraculous message will get her to reconsider. Instead she finds herself more detached to spirituality than ever.

She sobs as she eats the cereal, fighting to not completely break down. There has been way too many tears shed and today is just not the day for “self pity”

She leaves her apartment and takes one last stroll around the town that she called home for the past 6 years.  Life goes on as usual, the weather is beautiful, it’s not hot and it’s not cold either.

She puts on her headsets and listens to Coldplay as she crosses the street in the busy morning.  The music is calming to her soul. She  walks through the business  district and remembers all the experiences she had in this neighbourhood.

She finally makes her way back to her building , she grabs the note she made earlier and puts it in her purse. She  cleaned her place the day before knowing she did not wanna leave a mess behind.

She walks out of the flat and locks the door, there is an unusual silence in the air  as she walks down the passage. She opens the door to the fire escape and shuts it.

She takes her scarf and ties it around her neck, she reaches for the railing and ties the scarf against the bars. She begins to feel pressure against her neck, it’s so strong and overwhelming.

Her eyes feel like they are about to explode, its getting real, this is how it feels when your soul struggles to leave your body. Her heart is racing in panic, she is scared of  what is happening to her.   She is scared of where she is headed, she does not know what lies ahead. Her body jerks around, she begins to feel light headed.

There is no coming back from this, at this point her brain will begin to shut down but if someone finds her before that, she is looking at a life of irreversible brain damage and physical disability.

She rises from her bed drenched in sweat, she is relieved  because she was horrified  with everything that was happening. The dream of her suicide makes her realise that she does not really wanna die, she just wants her pain to stop.

What do you do when you just don’t have the will to continue, when you feel like a dead man walking. What do you do when you feel like your life is not worth living.

Talk to someone, and ask for help with the issues you are struggling with.  If you feel like there is no help at all for you then go ahead and end your life. Make sure you are successful at it because if it isn’t   the damage will be irreversible.

You may feel like you don’t matter, but you do matter to the people in your life. Talk to them and ask for help because your life is worth living even if you may not always feel like it is.

Being Home Alone Does Not Have To Be Daunting


Are you living alone  for the first time or finding yourself home alone because you are an introvert, either way being home by yourself can be daunting.

Being alone gets a bad rep because we live in a very social culture  were companionship is encouraged more than solitude.

Remember that to be alone does not necessarily mean to be lonely, you can be with another person and find yourself incredibly lonely.

It’s not about who you are with but more about how you are feeling and what you get up to. I live alone so I have become used to solitude , I will share my tips on how to enjoy this time to yourself.


Pamper Yourself

If you have a tub take a bubble bath with scented candles and music or take a long  hot shower and throw in a cold beer to cool yourself off.

We all wanna look good and feel good so why  not give yourself a Pedicure and Manicure. It’s very relaxing and fun to switch up those polish colours.

Braid your hair, try out a hairstyle you normally never have time to wear.

I  love to dress up and take lots of selfies . This is your time alone to try out different looks and plan out your outfits.


Take Care of your space

Do something that will improve the quality of your life at home.

Maybe your closet is disorganised, this may be the time to organise it so you can find that  crop top you haven’t seen in months.

If you have a bit of OCD, this may be the perfect time to start sorting those cereal jars in your pantry.

Nobody  enjoys chores, and not all of us have the luxury of a house keeper.  Pick up a broom and sweep your floors,  do something to improve the state of your home.


Entertain Yourself

Netflix and Chill  by yourself, catch up on that season of Game of Thrones you didn’t watch. Make a snack,  put your feet up and relax.

Plug in those speakers and Turn Up, have a solo party for one and enjoy those jams that maybe your friends do not enjoy as much as you do. I like having wine and grooving to Electronic House Music in my lounge, do whatever gets you excited.

If you are a video game junkie then it’s the perfect time for you to beat your personal record score.

If you are a book worm this maybe the time to finally catch up on some reading.  Make yourself  a beverage and pull out that tablet or  book.


Get Moving

Being home alone can sometimes lead to total laziness which is okay at times but you wanna show your body some love and get active. You can either work out with equipment you have at home or you can do some creative workouts with what you have.

Dancing is also a fun way to burn calories without feeling like you are in a gym. Turn up the music as suggested earlier and dance to your favourite jams.


Get Creative

When you are alone it’s the perfect time to be creative because there are no distractions and you are able to think better.

Maybe you fancy yourself a writer, you may wanna take the time to start that process or continue if its long  due.

Creativity is very broad and there is a lot you can do from Painting, Composing Music etc. What ever gets your  creative juices flowing.


Have Solo Therapy Sessions or  Meditate

Fire up your laptop and do Video diaries,  go to your Photo Booth and record short videos of how you are feeling. It is a very therapeutic way to express yourself  and talk about staff that you wouldn’t share with anyone else. I have been doing these for years and have saved my favourite ones to reflect on  the significant stages of my life.

Weird as it maybe to some people, there is something very relaxing about talking to yourself. You get to say staff you wouldn’t say to anyone else and confront the issues that  you carry internally. You can also journal your feelings .

The point is that we should not have anxiety about  being alone because we are always alone in our heads anyway. We came into this world alone and we will leave it alone so lets embrace this part of life and have fun with it.

Sometimes plans don’t work out & thats ok.


In our final year in University a Lecturer asked us where we see ourselves in 5 years . Nearly everyone saw themselves prospering at something they love.

Fast forward to 5 years after University and my life is nothing I thought it would be, I did not find myself prospering at my desired career. Instead I graduated from University and found myself struggling to find a solid job. I was doing low paying freelance gigs and barely getting by.  I felt like such a failure because I had not lived up to my expectations.

I saw my peers prosper and get ahead in their fields whilst I struggled to find stability in my chosen field. I became really depressed to the point were I stopped caring about my wellbeing, I went out a lot and used a lot of recreational drugs.  I wanted to die than accept that my life had come to this reality. It dawned on me that my depression does not come from my struggles, it came from my perception of my reality.

“To resist reality is to resist life and when you resist life you start to die slowly inside”

—A Cry For Help

Life will not always go as planned, we can resist our reality or learn to deal with our ordeal. Maybe like me you are in your late twenties and your life has not gone the way you thought it would.

There is no special age for having your shit together, I think that society created this order of life that we all have to follow and when our lives fall out of that order  we feel like there is something wrong with us. There is nothing wrong with you if you are unmarried at 30.  It is not wrong to be broke at 28 because you are not making enough money. There is no shame in moving back home at 33 because your business did not make it and your Marriage did not survive.

Life happens, sometimes things do not work out, you  have to pick yourself up and keep it moving. You cant torture yourself about what other people will think about your struggles because, those people have their own problems. Everyone wears a facade that makes them seem to have it all together when in fact they have worries and concerns like the rest of us.

“Do you ever notice how when you greet people, most people always say they are doing well, no one ever says I’m not fine”

—A Cry For Help

The point I’m making is that we are gonna have a lot of disappointments in life and if we cant even cope with were  we are at this moment then life will be incredibly hard.

At the end all we can do is make peace with the way things are and do our best to better our lives. This is life and we are living it the best we can.  Our struggles are an indication that we are living because if we were not faced with difficulty then it would mean that we haven’t tried to accomplish anything  at all.

Cheer up and live your life because life is not about the destination its about our experiences right now. What ever you are facing today in this very moment, that is life. There is no pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, you have to find joy in your experiences today.

Let Go and Move On


“Your life is being wasted daily waiting for someone who is living their life. “

-A Cry For Help

I met a guy in college who I became so infatuated with, I did not know him personally but I found myself so captivated by him. It was a lost cause because we were in our final year in university and the odds of us meeting were slim. We finished varsity and went on with our lives and  I still couldn’t get him out of my mind.  I was so into him I convinced myself the reason its gone on for so long was because we were meant to be together.

I was infatuated with him and could not even consider the reality that he may not feel the same way about me. My friend and I finally ran into him 3 years later in a pub. We exchanged numbers and afterwards I learned that he was unavailable. We made attempts to hang  out with him but he made it quiet clear he was in a committed relationship.

I was gutted, because I was not getting what I wanted, all my fantasies and hopes were crushed because the guy I liked did not like me back. I Drank off the disappointment with friends and tried to move on painfully.

Reality hit home and I realised that even if I keep holding on to hope it wont change a thing.

The most difficult aspect of moving on is accepting that the other person already did.

—Faraaz Kazi

I deleted his phone number and stopped following him on Facebook. They were necessary steps to take because the more I kept being exposed to him the longer it would have taken me to move on with my life.

I realised  that you cant force someone to like you, you have to accept their choice and let it go.

It is important to remember your self worth, you have to know that  something not working out does not diminish who you are as a person.

When we like someone we create this whole fantasy in our heads of how we would like things to go with that other person. When it does not go our way we struggle to walk away from an illusion we created in our head in the first place.

Never love something so much that you can’t let go of it.

—Ginni Rometty

We are so attached to the fantasy we wont even try and consider the possibility of what lies ahead when we do move on and let go.

It may feel like he / she is the one for you but honey, there are so many people out there that you could meet if you can finally bring yourself to closing that chapter.

The longer you hold on to that person , the longer you keep yourself from moving on. Your life is being wasted daily waiting for someone who is living their life.

Would you like to reach the end of your life knowing that you wasted a portion of it waiting for someone who didn’t want you, that would be tragic.

You can live without that person, the fact that you are still here today is an indication of that. You are not dead, your heart is still beating even with their absence in your  life, yes you can and will move on.

You will know you have moved on when you start being aware of the people around you. When you start receiving what life is putting in front of you, you will be making progress.

Don’t beat yourself up, we will meet a lot of people in the world and some of them will like us and some won’t.  That does not take away from who we are as people. We are awesome human beings who deserve to live a happy life.